Friday, January 05, 2018

Mother's Tumble

Last week my mother fell in her room on something and broke a lot of her ribs and bruised her hip and perhaps punctured her lung.  She went to the hospital.  But I was having digestive problems and could not visit her till Monday morning, so here is the report of that visit.  What a way to start off the new year.  

Paul was waiting right in front of the building.  This hospital was in east Garden Grove on GG Blvd and Palm Street.   We took the elevator up to the seventh floor where Mom was.  What struck me initially was how small the room seemed to be.  There were no chairs to sit on besides the porta-potty.  I had forgotten how narrow hospital beds were.  There was little natural light.  The room didn’t seem that clean.  Mom was dead to the world when first we came across her.  She was sleeping so soundly it seemed ashame to wake her.  Naturally she was groggy.  Mom was mentally confused lapsing from reality to some parrellel world where Dad was still alive and she even made reference to Grandpa and Grandma.  She asked where we were parked and could we go to the car now.   When I was by myself with Mom she asked if I could drive her home and asked if anybody else was in my room and maybe she could stay there.  The nursing staff didn’t seem that attentive.  We had to lift Mom ourselves and reposition her in bed and adjust the bed.  Her hospital gown kept coming undone.  Mom complained continually of pain in her stomach.  She took two things of Malox but that didn’t seem to help.  It wasn’t till after one thirty that she got a pain pill when by now her ribs were hurting.  Some of the nurses were chatty like that blonde who was almost as tall as I was.  But they didn’t appear to be tending to her needs.  At one point I used the bathroom.  One thing I noticed was that the bathroom was spacious unlike the cramped room where you always seemed to be tripping on something.   They announced pizza in the cafeteria just before noon.  At some point they brought in a chair for Mom, which was the only chair in the room.  She was in the chair close to an hour and continually complained of discomfort.  Mom was supposed to get her lunch between twelve and one but it was an hour late and the food was cold and there was nobody else to help feed her and she seemed to have no appetite when Paul helped her.   She complained the food was cold, and I’m sure it was.  She didn’t seem to want to watch TV.  The next door bed has visitors the whole time.  An attendant spilled some coffee meant for Mom even though she doesn’t drink coffee.  I’d like to see her out of that place to somewhere where she can get more attentive service.   I was getting cabin fever as the hours ticked by.  First it’s twelve, and then one and then two.  By the time we left it was ten after two and we had been there for over three hours, which was the last thing I was expecting.   It’s kind of an emotionally draining experience and I don’t know how Tim and Paul do it.  Paul said something about how Marie is a better conversationalist than he is, though Paul did a pretty good job of keeping the conversation humming.  Mom did notice my mustache.  After we left we weaved our way through the streets and came up Katella where there were a lot of restaurants.  I had it in my mind I wanted to eat at a Subway.  I wasn’t in the mood for a sit down place where we would be there over a half hour.  I wanted food quickly.  We went down Gilbert to Cerritos and up to Beach where I thought there was a Subway but it wasn’t there any more so we went to Taco Bell.  We got one of their five dollar specials.  We both had a large taco and a smaller cheese shell taco and a thing of Nachos and a different kind of burrito and a large Pepsi for five dollars.   I ate my food eagerly.  We were ready to return back here just about three.  I told Paul it was an educational experience.  Paul expressed concern what to do next.  I thought we should have her at the “skilled nursing” unit at Roundtree and see what happens after a month.  I guess you have to make a decision then where to continue to hold on to her room.  

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